Dear Followers,

Since we have moved this Blog to http://www.sortmylife.org , I felt kind of sorry for my first Blog here, with the Blogger. It's like it is left out, all by itself! So here I am, posting a copy of my latest article here. It is about analysing what factors might be pulling you down, leaving you Dream-less.

What if you don’t have a Dream?

Juvenile aspirations are no longer valid. Opportunities are missed. Whatever is achieved does not seem to be valuable enough. No energy or desire to set goals for the future. In other words, midlife crisis. Read on to get an idea of how to get out of this swamp of low emotions.

Step 1.  Formation. Get an understanding of where you are now.  How did you get there?

“Experience is not what happens to you; It is what you do with what happens to you.” Aldous Huxley

There are thousands of factors that influence our life and our emotions. Some of these factors are:
-          Life stages
-          Life choices
-          Family/Friends
-          Events besides your control
-          Education
-          Cultural environment

Become more aware of who you are today, what is your image, how are your actions and habits affecting people around you. What knowledge do you already posses and what do you feel remains as unclaimed knowledge? If you could take a magic wand and change certain outcomes in your life – what would they be?

Now, knowing what you know about your work and position in today’s society, ask that magic wand to give only those things that are really necessary. Write it down: what would they be?

Step 2. Obstacles. Decide, what is stopping you from making changes for the better.

OK, time to find those stoppers but not blame anyone. “Man is not the creature of circumstances. Circumstances are the creatures of men.” Benjamin Disraeli.

Identify what you can do to overcome or eliminate the obstacles or how you could possibly transform your current circumstances into positive opportunities.

Think of the things that may have been stopping you from achieving 100%. It is quite easy to go on with your current life, even if you are not quite happy with yourself. We manage our lives through conditioning and habit, there is not much to resist. Only the dissatisfaction with yourself. As your awareness grows and you grow within your knowledge, so does the dissatisfaction of non-achievement! That’s when you start to feel that it might be time for Change.

Time for Change is the Time of Realisation. This is when you understand that it is time to change your…

-          Emotion (E-Motion = Energy in Motion). It takes the same amount of energy to create positive or negative emotion. So why not to spend that energy wisely? Work out your own Energy Spending Map: resourceful and non-resourceful zones. Are you getting stressed, negative and angry too often or are you training yourself to be philosophical and calm?

-          Society Mirror – is more often than not an induced fiction we have collectively agreed to participate in through the hypnosis of social conditioning. “He is comparing me…” “She thinks I’m stupid…” “They don’t want to deal with me” etc, etc, etc. – how many hurtful messages are we sending to ourselves on a daily basis!

Constantly challenge this out-of-date reality when it sends you messages of such inadequacy!

-          Parental and Teacher Influences – Aren’t we all a bit guilty of the fact that we have developed a good number of complexes because of those whose direct task was to educate us and to wish us better?!
A sting of criticism is stronger than a balm of praise. We develop a very limited belief or expectation of ourselves and perform accordingly for the remainder of our life. Unless we are fortunate enough to learn how to re-programme ourselves.

We need to spend more time building children than repairing adults.
Step 3. Choices. Realise the life you want to lead. What choices do you have?

It is your programming that has created your choices in the past (events, society judgement, education choices). It is the choices that you make today that are creating the programmes of your future.

It is time to think about how we want our lives to be and to begin forming goals or reviewing existing goals for further change and development in life. Through your new, well realised, choices, you will create your new life, and take responsibility for your own self-determination.

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” Rumi

Start with your own self: your image, your smile and understanding of people. Work on yourself to progress. See the results and then get on with bigger plans in life.

Step 4. Good change. Time to get those special techniques which will help you overcome your resistance to change and discover the New You.

Many of the challenges we have in everyday life rise from the conflict between your own self and Time. We think that we can’t afford the time to work at instituting a new image or a new behaviour. The reality is, naturally, that we cannot afford not to do it!

Start from reframing the problem. Instead of saying you are overwhelmed with tasks to do and you don’t have the time or resources, see what happens if you say:

“I have enough time to do the necessary research because this will get me to where I want to be!”

See what happens. What seems to be impossible to achieve today, if you work on it with dedication, may become a fact of life tomorrow. Isn’t it worth trying? Just for once:  a couple of hours of research on the topic that has been bothering you for a long while and you might feel almost an expert! How would being an ‘expert’ make you feel?

Here are a few helpful tools on how to feel stronger, more powerful and progress:

1. Be aware
2. Positive self-talk
3. Recognise your achievements and celebrate them
4. Be able to forgive and be the bigger person
5. Take time, relax and recharge
6. See the world from other people’s perspective
7. Think “abundance” rather than “lack”
8. Feel your Passion!

Start afresh right now!